Undying Love

Lucy Kalanithi, MD & Frank Ostaseski

Lucy Kalanithi has said that one of the most important aspects of caregiving for her husband was helping him maintain his identity as his capacities narrowed. Frank Ostaseski calls the foundation for this support of the whole individual “undying love.” Together they share the experience of fully embracing the suffering, beauty and wonder of staying connected to the essential person at the center of care.

About the Speakers

Lucy Kalanithi, MD is a Clinical Assistant Professor of Medicine at Stanford University School of Medicine. She is the widow of the late Dr. Paul Kalanithi, author of the New York Times bestselling memoir, When Breath Becomes Air, for which she wrote the epilogue. She has postdoctoral fellowship training in health care delivery innovation from Stanford’s Clinical Excellence Research Center and special interests in health care value and meaning in medicine as well as patient-centered and end of life care.

Frank Ostaseski is an internationally respected Buddhist teacher and visionary pioneer in end of life care. Frank co-founded Zen Hospice Project, where he led the establishment of its insightful care model of compassionate presence and mindfulness. He founded the Metta Institute in 2005, training countless health care clinicians and caregivers while building a national network of educators, advocates and guides for those facing life-threatening illness. He is the author of The Five Invitations: Discovering What Death Can Teach Us About Living Fully.