Recently, we began to wonder if, in a world increasingly defined by rapid technological and societal transformation, political polarization, and loneliness, the often-avoided subjects of death and grief might offer a surprising anchor. So, we asked our community of clinicians, doulas, caregivers, therapists, and more if being in touch with grief and making friends with mortality are actually superpowers in this rapidly changing world?
Here’s what they said:
Building resilience
“People often recoil and shudder when I tell them what I do for a living and almost always say, “Wow, that must be so hard.” But I do truly view it as a superpower that I have. It’s like being able to see the future.”
“People may be finding themselves in a new place right now with this new set of circumstances, and they need to be reminded that they know what to do – that they have been through grief before and came out the other side, or they have witnessed their ancestors do this.”
Cultivating community
“Being initiated into the ranks of grief superhero is an honor many would never choose, but when they do the change is tangible. You can feel the way they know more, and are more for themselves and for others. They are more aware of the present moment, are more empathetic, and live with less fear.”
“Do I believe that being in touch with grief is a superpower? – Heck yes I do…it has been my personal mission to build a community of empowered grievers, who intend to save the world by living well and dying better. I don’t say that lightly, and yes “save the world” is exactly what I mean.”
“I also see the doula framework being extremely helpful to triage in the face of any tragedy or uncertainty. These discussions can help anchor someone, see the bigger picture, brainstorm strategies for coping, putting systems into place, identifying what’s important and what you want around you, etc. You meet someone where they are and take it one step at a time.”
Showing up for others
“Damn… to see myself in another. To let my pain propel me forward to help another. Damn. That’s some grown up shit. Can I do it? I think so… I am.”
“Making friends” with mortality is such an interesting concept and choice of words because, in my mind, it has parallels to making friends with someone who is different from you, whether in race, background, sexual orientation, or beyond. My understanding of human nature includes judgmentalism and fear responses that often occur to things that are foreign or unknown, but once we get past that (by approaching with curiosity and compassion, for self and other), it can open up immeasurable opportunity for perspective, appreciation and connection.”
A radical act of courage
As End Well Speaker Tembi Locke says, “Our very act of living is an act of love for those who have gone.” So, maybe we should lean into this radical act of living through death and grief. Maybe we should start seeing mortality and grief as tools, and as ways to build inner strength and connection with others.
Becoming friends with mortality offers a kind of quiet superpower, a steady presence in a world that feels like it’s spinning out of control. Instead of being afraid, we can learn to embrace life—and death— and find a deeper sense of purpose, peace and connection in the process.